Ass licking is Amazing try itBefore you say, “Ewwww!” hear me out—it may not beyour thing, but then again, if you’re open-minded andexperimental, just think, you might find an amazing newsex act to add to your repertoire! If the thought makesyou squirm, and not in a good way, then go ahead andclick back—but if you’re even a little bit curious aboutoral-anal contact, then read on, and let’s find out about”analingus,” as it is technically called, (and yes, that isthe correct spelling, look it up!) or more commonly”rimming” in porn and erotica circles.Remember when oral sex used to be a “no-no?” (Okay,maybe you’re not old enough to remember, but it’strue!) There was a time when it was outlawed in moststates, and it was considered a perversion. No oneadmitted they did it, even if they did. Can you imagineyour sex life without oral? I didn’t think so! Rimming(I’ll use this colloquial phrase from now on) is one ofthose sex acts that still remains in the sexual darkages. It’s time we brought it into the light, for thosewho want to venture into that arena. There isn’t (andshouldn’t be) any shame associated with any sexual act—rimming included.Still, feeling some hesitation and even a littleembarrassment about rimming is normal, for the veryreason I state above—the anus is one part of our bodythat we have internalized a great deal of shame about inour culture. It takes overcoming some of that to evenentertain the idea, let alone actually attempt it.You might want to try some other forms of anal playfirst—fingers or toys—before you move on to anal-oralcontact. In fact, I would bet if you’re actually curiousabout it, and not just reading this for the gross-outfactor like someone slowing down at the scene of anaccident, you probably have already been involved insome sort of anal play.Sometimes couples fall into this experience through adelightful mishap—he is going down on her, and—oops!His tongue slips down lower than either of themexpected, and she jumps and moans and they both lookat each other like: “Wow! What was that?!” It canhappen the other way around, too, if he likes to have hisballs and perineum licked and sucked—especially if it’sdark! Either bahis şirketleri way, this happy accident can lead to adesire to explore this idea further.If you’re interested in it, but your partner isn’t, let it go.One sex act shouldn’t ever come between you, and whocan enjoy something if they know the other person isn’tenjoying themselves, too? But if you’re both curious andinterested, just not sure how to proceed, then talk aboutit. Who wants to give? Who wants to receive?Sometimes it’s both of you, sometimes it’s just one ofyou. If there are concerns about hygiene, then read on,because I’m about to assuage them.The biggest fear with oral-anal contact is feces. (Someof us won’t even put food that’s fallen on the floor intoour mouths!) If you can get past the psychologicalaspect of it, the reality is that with proper hygiene, thereis very little danger of coming in contact with feces.Why? Fecal material is actually stored above the rectumin the colon. There are only trace amounts that remainin the rectum or on the anus, which can easily bewashed away.Infection is the real concern—the possibility ofintroducing bacteria into our digestive tract from oral-anal contact. The dangerous bacteria are E. coli,Salmonella, intestinal parasites like Giardia, and ofcourse, AIDS. The good news is you can seriouslyminimize your risks. If you are in an exclusive,monogamous relationship, and you know that neither ofyou is HIV positive, has any STDs, and are free ofparasites, careful washing should be sufficient.You can shower together, which is always fun foreplay,anyway. One technique I’ve learned is to fill the tubhalfway, squat down, and insert a soapy finger into theanus. Turn your finger around a few times, so the waterand the soap wash away any residue in and around thearea.Some couples prefer to do enemas, which clean out theentire colon. You can actually buy disposable enemas,or if you’re in this for the long-haul, get yourself a kit.They’re easy to use—while on your hands and knees,you just insert the little nozzle into the anus, andsqueeze the bottle to push the fluid into the rectum. Youwill feel the urge to go after a few moments, and illegal bahis youcan sit in the toilet and just allow the fluid to drain.If you’re still hesitant, you can use a dental dam—a kindof rubber sheet that works sort of like a condom for themouth. You can approximate one of these usingunlubricated condoms (don’t use any lubricated ones orany with spermicide!) or even just some Saran wrap!Kind of like sex with a condom, it doesn’t feel quite thesame, but it’s still pretty good—and it’s 100% safe.Now, on to the fun part—actually trying it! It helps toget relaxed. A sensual massage from the giver to thereceiver can only be helpful. Whatever you can do torelax each other, do it! My favorite position is doggiestyle—for two reasons: 1.) it provides maximumexposure but still allows for genital play and 2.) it is themost vulnerable.One of the turn-ons of rimming can be the surrender init. You are opening up parts of yourself to a lover thathave never been touched—not only that, they have beenculturally shunned and rejected. Many of ourassociations with the anus are negative: that’s a “bad”part of the body or that part of us isn’t “ok.” This is away to give yourself wholly and completely to yourpartner, and for your partner to accept you that way aswell. I’ve also heard couples say that this positionworks well, especially the first time—if the receiverneeds to hide their face in a pillow at first to deal withany shame that comes up.Other positions you can try are doggie-style, butstanding up. Just make sure you have something tohold onto that’s stable! You can also lie on your back,but I would suggest using a pillow under the hips toraise everything up. I’ve also known couples who cando a sixty-nine position, but unless you do lots of yogaor are a gymnast, I don’t know that you want to try thison the first go!So, now you’re relaxed, you’re positioned… it’s themoment you’ve been waiting for. Don’t rush it—easeinto things, so to speak. Kiss and touch and lick allaround the area first, starting wide and moving in—beginwith the hips, the lower back, the thighs, and of course,the ass. Nibble, suck, stroke with your hands, and movein, slowly, illegal bahis siteleri toward the anus, a little bit at a time.It’s good to start with kisses. Just feather little kissesaround the anus. Pay attention to your lover’s response.If they back away, start wide and circle in again.Sometimes you have to build up to it. You can also trysome genital stimulation first to heighten arousal— withyour fingers, though, not with your tongue. Unless youare using a dental dam or a facsimile, once your lipsand tongue have touched the anus, you don’t want toput them anywhere else until you’re done.If your lover is enjoying the kisses, move on to usingyour tongue. Flatten your tongue and press it againstthe anus. You can wiggle it back and forth gently, orstart just by licking with the flat of your tongue. Howdoes this feel? Um—fantastic! The anus has lots andlots of nerve endings, and they are highly sensitive totouch. Kind of like with oral sex—fingers are ok, but atongue? Oh, heaven!Once your lover is starting to respond to your licking(moaning and squirming and arching the back are allvery common now!) you can try pointing your tongueand sliding it into the anus. This is kind of the scarypart for the giver, but remember, you’ve done everythingpossible to be clean—let down your inhibitions, andlisten to the sound of your lover’s response. That’susually enough to keep the giver motivated to keepgiving!You can (and should) keep stimulating your lover’s anusuntil they tell you to stop. You can keep up manualgenital stimulation as well (or your partner can do it forthemselves). Having an orgasm with a tongue sliding inand out of your anus—I just can’t do it justice in adescription, I’m sorry! Fireworks, weak knees, ringing inthe ears, you name it.When you’re completely done, the giver should washtheir mouth out with an antiseptic mouthwash, just tobe on the (very!) safe side. Listerine is probably thebest (I’m not doing a commercial, honest—but anythingthat tastes that bad has to kill more germs, right?) Ifyour hands have come in contact with the anus, youshould also wash those.Rimming can be a very pleasurable experience, if you’rewilling to give it a try. There are definitely very safeways to practice it, minimizing all the risks—and thebenefits are extraordinary! You can have deeperintimacy, more pleasure, and you now have somethingnew to add to your bag of tricks to keep your sex lifefrom growing